Fearlessly – the mother of an entitled teen asks,
It sure seems as though my 13-year-old daughter believes she's entitled to "free" everything. She really thinks she deserves everything she gets and isn't willing to do anything that even resembles hard work (especially homework). What can I do to straighten her out.
Ahhhh! Entitled teenagers. I was one myself, so can speak with authority.
First of all, let's begin by realizing that there is nothing you can do to "straighten her out." That's her job. What you can do is put an end to free money and allowances – providing her every opportunity to "earn" for choosing to start on time, stay on task and complete her assignments.
Let's review 3 essential steps:
- Replace allowances with earning.
- Catch kids doing the right thing.
- Reward immediately with a smile, thumbs up and points.
I began Brainsarefun to fill an enormous void. Far too many kids (and adults) were struggling with school (pre-school through college) because they never experienced success with earning. Allowances are a poor idea because they encourage the idea of "free money." I don't get free money, I can't imagine why my kids should.
To remedy kids believing they're "entitled" to free stuff I set out to teach them the greatest study-skills of all: how to start on time, stay on task and finish their assignments. This requires living up to agreements.
The place to start is always the same, "success."
Thanks for all you do to flood kids with reading, math and study-skill success,
Rory Donaldson, Chief Brain, Success with reading, math and study-skills teacher, Brainsarefun. To save academic lives Brainsarefun's Fearless Friday Blog is published fearlessly every Friday, © 2012 – 2014 by Rory Donaldson, firstname.lastname@example.org, 860-304-3178. Our kids really can do it!